A good friend has messed me around, do I forgive him or not?

Hi there please see if you can help me with my predicament...



For a long time now, me and my girlfriend Vita wanted to move house out of our parents house. I am 22 and she is 21. We discovered that a friend of ours called Chris needed to move too so we thought we could buy a 3 bedroom place together so it is cheaper for the rent.



A week or so ago we found a 3 bedroom place we loved and started to go through the steps with Reeds Rains to get it. We have had nothing but trouble going back and forth from them over different issues but eventually we discovered we needed 3 lots of money before we could move in. I got my dad to pay the bond, Vita's grandma as a garantor and me and Chris and Vita would pay the first weeks rent.



Me and Vita put all our money in and we were reassured by Chris that his would be in this Friday so we could pay and secure the house. It didnt go in and the money I had given to him had been delved into due to bank charges.



I was worried but I knew it was not his fault about the jobcentre but all through the week he has been too laid back with everything and sleeping in for an appointment, not wanting to go to sort out with the local council etc. The same day he upset Vita by saying fat comments...



Even if he gets the money back now im wondering if he will let me down with money throughout the 6months of living in the house and if i should look for a different place with Vita all together.



I dont want to let him down and for him have to stay at home with his dad for ages to come but we need to move on and cant wait for him due to Vita living at her grandmas and us all boxed up ready to move. Should i give him another chance even though we are so mad at him??? if i choose not to, will he be mad at me forever?



any comments are useful thank you all!!



a worried Ruth xxxA good friend has messed me around, do I forgive him or not?
A good friend is very hard to come by, especially this day in age, dont keep people in your life who will mess you up and ruin things for you. There are 7 billion people on earth. Move onto better pastures and have no regrets, this is a hard decision, but this is what i would do. I have people who have hurt me very much, those that i considered friends. They come back later in their life, but I just dont forgive them. Take Care, God Bless!A good friend has messed me around, do I forgive him or not?
Good thing you found out early how irresponsible he is! It is a pattern that will continue. Move out and move on, without him!A good friend has messed me around, do I forgive him or not?
Mr. Prince gave the best answer, forget this person and move on.