Husband may be using illegal drugs?

a week ago i looked through my husbands phone and seen some text messages- one asking "hey could you sell some "adds" for me? and another that said- "Hey do you still do subs?"



i confronted him about it, and he said that he is not selling drugs (which was my first thought) and that he once in awhile takes a "sub" when he feels like he wants to do drugs. I've been researching what a "sub" is and it's a drug called suboxone which is used the in the treatment of addicts to get them off of opiates.



To my knowledge, he has never been "addicted" to opiates, i know when he was younger he would pop the occasional pain pill, he did cocaine for a little while and maybe some occasional marijuana smoking.



I'm wondering (maybe from people that have abused suboxone and why they did it and what effects it had on them) why would someone who isnt an addict use "subs"? He does not get them with a prescription, he gets them illegally from friends etc...



He also never sleeps, he can stay up 24 hours and still go to bed at 11 pm the next night. He's lost a significant amount of weight in the past few months, he eats candy like crazy.



Also he goes from having tons of money to being broke. The other day he asked me for $160.00 and it was gone the next day and he asked me for twenty more dollars. When i asked where all his money went he said on gas (which he just drives a little car) and lunch (which obviously doesnt add up unless he went to Ruths Chris) ... It just all doesnt add up.



Also today i found a little orange zip lock bag in his shaving kit. like tiny little bag.



What does this all sound like to you?Husband may be using illegal drugs?
I would be more worried about him loosing weight %26amp; staying up 24/7!It sounds like hes on methamphetamine!The money makes sense to to where its going. If he were taking pills he would not be staying up all night he would sleep more.



If hes on meth he wont eat, sleep, he may get sores on his face %26amp; body, he will lie alot %26amp; they may be angry some times to when coming off the drug..Look at his eyes he will have big pupils to.



Anything u ask him about the drugs hes doing is going to be a lie trust me. All meth heads lie. They will lie about everything trust me.



If u want to contact me please feel free to message me i can talk u threw this. My 2 friends of mine just quit doing meth less then 2 weeks ago. So i know the signs %26amp; everything. She denied she was even on it but i just knew the signs were there.Husband may be using illegal drugs?
yup he is
Sorry but I think he is usingHusband may be using illegal drugs?
Not to have to jump to conclusions, but to me it sounds like he might be getting high. The important thing is to never ever attack with assumptions until you know the complete truth. Being accused of doing drugs can be very very offensive to people, and although you may be overjoyed to find out he's not doing drugs you might be put into a bad position with him and how he feels towards you. But if you DO find out that he has been doing drugs you have to approach the situation very delicately. Addiction is a very strong thing and can turn the best of people into strangers. Of course you'll want your loved one to get healthy, and the perfect way to start it off would be by letting him know that you'll be there as support as long as he is making the effort to change for the better. Good luck, and remember to be mindful in everything you do and say in your relationship!
Pain pills ARE opiates and he may have had a problem with them earlier in life. People use pills like suboxene and methadone to give them the same exact high. Matter of fact, there are people who will continue to have a methadone Rx their entire lives because their bodies/minds depend upon the opiates in there to function. It's the same as heroin, it's just the legal/medical version. From what I hear, it's actually better and cleaner and that's why most people prefer it over the street drug.



He sounds like he may need some help, but first of all, you need a full understanding of how addicts function and work. Telling him "you know" and he "needs help" is just going to cause a BIG fight. I know because I'm a recovering alcoholic. Most people can't admit they have a problem OR will never admit it. He has to hit rock bottom (which he hasn't) and you have to stop enabling him yourself (give him no money at all, for anything, I don't care what his reasons are). Look up NA and the support groups for their spouses. Get support for YOU first, bc you're gonna need it. You don't know how hard it is to have an addict as a spouse yet. He may just be toying wiht it, but theres still something there. GLHusband may be using illegal drugs?
The not sleeping and losing Weight is more of a clue for some type of amphetamine. Add the use of money with no real explanation that makes sense. As far as the subs go even current users will take the subs if they cannot get their drug of choice just to keep from getting sick. . Bur amphetamines are not opiates. Even so there is a lot of users who do both opiates and amphetamines.



My suggestion is that you offer your full support for him to seek help along with a time table of consequences if he does not take you up on it. But be forewarned. If you bluff you will then make you useless as a incentive for him to seek help. Therefore you must be serious about what your consequences are and follow through.



I also suggest getting your own support before doing this. Maybe attend a Narcotics Anonymous meeting and speak to someone who has a long clean period and ask him for resources and maybe they can assist you as well.



I do not suggest calling the police because most just do their job of locking up which you should try to avoid as it can start the spiral of legal problems forever.



Legal or not if he is using then he is sick. You can support his attempts to get help and stay clean without enabling him.



Sounds like a time for tough love.



You are definitely not alone on this one.



Good luck!
In addition to Suboxone; "adds" is a reference to the prescription pill Adderall. It is a pyscostimulant most commonly prescribed to "treat" ADHD symptoms. Several active ingredients of which are closely related to amphetamines. This would explain the amphetamine like misbehavior that you have described. If his friends are texting him about "adds" then I seriously doubt that he is also smoking methamphetamines as others have suggested; unless you have specific evidence of that. It looks like he is doing 2 different prescription meds illegally.
There's no "may be" here. Your husband is abusing powerful prescription drugs, and he is lying about it.



I wonder what else he is lying about? Plenty, I'll bet.
Dan pretty much hit it right on the head. He's self medicating with uppers and downers which ultimately, and inevitably, leads to a horrible cross addiction between opiates and amphetamines and absolute misery in getting off of them. I got hooked on opiates after a series of surgeries on my leg and I wanted to die through the withdrawals, I can't imagine what it'd be like to get off them AND amphets.....